Between this past week and the coming weekend, I'll have seen friends from school, as well as a childhood friend that I haven't seen in years. It's a good thing, reconnecting.
For the past 8 years or so I essentially isolated myself with responsibility. I'd do the work I needed to, then head home to do what was needed there. Not seeing friends, limited time with family (outside those in my home)..... long term, not a healthy thing. But I did it for them. Yes, my work/study took a huge amount of time. So they got the rest of it.
Now, with my reward of being isolated from my family, I have more free time. Joy.
Staying isolated, the easier thing to do, would be bad. I accept that. But facing the numerous questions of "How are things going?"... well, that just sucks. Every time. But eventually, as time goes by my first thought won't be 'I haven't seen my kids in xx days.'. Things will get better.
Eventually.
1 comment:
Yes, staying isolated is not a good thing... But there are two paths to avoiding isolation - reconnecting with those who knew you in your past life and rebuilding those connections or building a whole new group of friends, acquaintances, casual contacts, etc.
Sometimes when you life changes so drastically as to bear no resemblance to the life that came before it forging new connections is not only easier but more viable in the long run.
Of course, I am one to talk... If given a chance I'd never set foot out of the house and confine all my socializing to the internet or anonymous chats in Starbucks with passing strangers. ;)
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